Halloween is coming . . Don't let anyone Gaslight you!

Halloween is coming and here at Wholesome Entertainment we are not into movies that promote fear.  BUT we are into movies that warn against real dangers, and we think that Gaslighting is a psychological danger that everyone should be aware of - according to Wikipedia, "Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation that seeks to sow seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or in members of a targeted group, making them question their own memory, perception and sanity."

The film Gaslight is one of the best films we know that shows how dangerous and destructive gaslighting can be.  It is NOT a film for young ones!

We try to watch and spotlight wholesome movies, because we want to live wholesome lives and we know how much media affects that.  Most of the movie we spotlight on our blog are great for the whole family.  But occasionally we spotlight one that is best for adults or older teens and Gaslight is one of those movies.

Still we think watching the film Gaslight is important because knowing what gaslighting is and being able to spot it and protect yourself from it is important.

Gaslight (1944) - Trailer

Here are our favorite articles on Gaslighting.

A Message to Women From a Man: You Are Not “Crazy”   Here is the first paragraph from the article - "You’re so sensitive. You’re so emotional. You’re defensive. You’re overreacting. Calm down. Relax. Stop freaking out! You’re crazy! I was just joking, don’t you have a sense of humor? You’re so dramatic. Just get over it already!

Sound familiar?

If you’re a woman, it probably does." . . . 

What is Gaslighting? How to Know if You Are Being Gaslighted

Here's a quote from this article - "“Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse in which false information is presented with the intent of making a victim doubt his or her own memory and perception. It may simply be the denial by an abuser that previous abusive incidents ever occurred, or it could be the staging of bizarre events by the abuser with the intention of disorienting the victim." . . . 

How to Turn Off the Gaslight Effect in Your Relationship

This article will tell you:

* Six Ways to Mobilize Yourself to Stop the Gaslight Effect

* Five Ways to Turn Off the Gas

Gaslighting: Abuse That Makes You Question Reality 

If you have favorite clips or articles on gaslighting, we'd love to hear from you!

Which Movie Stars are You Related To?

Hi y'all!  You know how much you enjoy a production or a sporting event if you have a family member in it?  We think it's exciting to see which actors or actresses we are related to - it makes watching their films or TV shows that much more fun.

Our favorite FREE site for this Relative Finder.  Below is the review of Relative Finder

In order to use Relative Finder you will need to have a FREE Family Search account.

The more genealogical information you can enter - meaning the more your your grandparents and great grandparents - that you can enter in Family Search, the better the Relative Finder site is going to work.

Relative Finder came up with 48 actors/actresses that we are related to.  We think you'll have a super fun time scrolling through the list that it comes up with for you.   Below are some of the actors & actresses from my side (Suzanne's side) of the family and some of our favorite films that they starred in.

We can't wait to see which movie stars you are related to!  Be sure to let us know!

The Actors

Walt Disney - the creator and original voice of Mickey Mouse and the creator of many other films.   Finding Dory is one of our favorite modern Disney Films.  And Cinderella is one of our favorite classic Disney Films

Tom Hanks - Chelsey Sullenberger in Sully.  

Andy Griffeth - Andy Griffeth in The Andy Griffeth Show TV Show

Frank Morgan - The Wizard in The Wizard of Oz

Bing Crosby - Bob Wallace in White Christmas 

and Jim Hardy in Holiday Inn

Don Knots - Roy Flemming in The Reluctant Astronaut

Gregory Peck - Atticus Finch in To Kill a Mockingbird 

and Phillip Green in Gentleman's Agreement

Humphrey Bogart - Rick Blaine in Casablana,

Charlie Allnut in The African Queen 

and Linus Larrabee in Sabrina

James Stewart - Jefferson Smith in Mr. Smith Goes to Washington, 

Tony Kirby in You Can't Take It With You, 

Robin Williams - Daniel Hillard in Mrs. Doubtfire (Preview first)

Bill Bixby - Tim O'Hara in m My Favorite Martian TV Show& David Banner in The Incredible Hulk

Richard York - Darrin Stephens from Bewitched

Jackson DeForest Kelly - Dr. Leonard McCoy from StarTrek

Fess Elisha Parker - Davy Crocket in Disney's Davy Crocket

The Actresses

Judy Garland - Hannah Brown in Easter Parade, 

and Jane Falbury in Summer Stock.

Debbie Reynolds - Kathy Seldon in Singing in the Rain, 

Tammy from Tammy and the Bachelor 

and Molly Brown in The Unsinkable Molly Brown

Elizabeth Montgomery - Samantha Stephens from the Bewitched TV Show

Lucille Ball - Lucy from the I Love Lucy TV Show

Betty Grable - Myrtle Burt in Mother Wore Tights, 

and Jenny Dolly in The Dolly Sisters, 

Marilyn Monroe - Pola Debevoise  in How to Marry a Millionaire

& Lois Laurel in Monkey Business

Donna Belle Mullenger (better known as Donna Reed) - Mary Hatch Bailey in It's a Wonderful Life

and Donna Stone in The Donna Reed TV Show

Elizabeth Taylor - Amy March in Little Women 1949,

Katherine (Kay) Banks in Father of the Bride 1950 

and Kay Dunstan in Father's Little Dividend 

Does Honesty and Integrity Matter in Relationships and in Marriage

Quick vote, what do you think you want most in a relationship?  Someone you can trust?  Someone who has absolute integrity?  Or something else?  And if it is something else, what else it it?

This week I was all set to do a shout out on some Betty Grable movies.  But as I was watching through some of her movies, I stumbled across the film A Yank in the R.A.F.  And it had a  theme that I thought was important enough that I wanted to discuss it. 

In the film A Yank in the R.A.F.  two people are in love with the same girl.  One is dishonest, and doesn't follow rules or instructions or follow through on assignments and in not a gentleman.  And one is just the opposite.  Which would you chose? 

A Yank in the R.A.F. 1941 - Trailer

I think it's super important to teach our children and ourselves what attributes in a relationship might lead to happiness.  And how important honesty and integrity are in a relationship.

Then I started thinking of other films that I had seen that also have that same conflict of choosing to love someone who is honest or dishonest, someone who has integrity or someone who does not. 

Here are the films I remember watching in the past with a stark contrast between a person with integrity and a person without   I'm hoping that you can add to the list.   While most of the films that we spotlight are completely family friendly, this post is much different.  I would not suggest just letting your children watch any of these film without your guidance.  And I would highly suggest you watching all of these films first so you can weigh for yourself the value of what it teaches verses the level of vice in the film

Kitty Foyle 1941 - Trailer

In Kitty Foyle a woman has 2 men who love her.  Again one is full of integrity, one is not.

Pride and Prejudice 2005 - Trailer

We love this movie because it shows how easy it is to misjudge a person if you judge only by first impressions.

Daniel Deronda 2002 - Trailer

In Daniel Deronda a man of integrity chooses who to marry.  And a woman is warned about a man who doesn't have integrity and chooses to marry him or not.

La Bamba 1987 - Trailer

This has many very heavy adult themes, please watch it first and weigh it's teaching values with your values.  In La Bamba you see a stark contrast of a male with integrity and a male with no or very little integrity.

Frozen 2013 - Trailer

We include Frozen with this list of movies because it points how easy it is to be mislead on the level of someone's honesty and integrity because we all want to assume the best in people.

In some of the films above the main girl in the story chooses the person with high intercity and in some of the films above the main girl in the story chooses the person with low or no integrity.  But I think that no matter what the choice we can speculate on what will happen in that character's life and which choice may have made them more happy.  So we think all have teaching value.

We want to act with integrity.  We want to be able to trust those we love, and being honest and having integrity is the only way to built that trust.  We hope that by watching these films it will open the discussion of how important honesty and integrity is.  

Donna Reed from the Girl Next Door to a Role Model Mom!

I grew up watching the Donna Reed show and dreaming about the kind of mom I would be to my children.  Did you do the same?  Did you dream about the kind of parent you would be when you grew up?  We'd love to hear about the kind of parent you wanted to be when you grew up and the kind of parent you turned out to be and what do you think influenced your journey for the good.

Check out the trailer for It's a Wonderful Life below.

Check out the trailer for The Benny Goodman Show below.

The Benny Goodman Story 1956 - Trailer

And from TV 1958-1966

Check out the The Donna Reed Show Official Trailer

The Donna Reed Show - Trailer

If you have a lesson that you learned from The Donna Reed Show or a favorite episode let us know!  We'd love to here from you!!!